Letting Go…Or Not


I am a person who is not very good at letting go. I have never succeeded at “letting go” of my departed family members or lost loves, and I am currently having a problem letting go of the family dog, who is clearly on his way out of this world.

I understand that it is healthier — emotionally, spiritually, even physically — to “let go”, to move on, to make a new start. And yet, sometimes I see people who seem to recover far too quickly for my taste. Their spouse passes away and two weeks later, they’re dating. Or a situation seen all too often my clients, who are elder law attorneys: A parent dies and the kids are in the house dividing up the property before the corpse has been removed. It is unseemly, to say the very least. At worst, it’s disgusting.

And then, this past week, a man named Rocky Abalsamo died at age 97. Nothing famous about him. Just a guy. A guy who missed his wife and had a hard time letting go.

One thought on “Letting Go…Or Not

  1. You’re a good man, Mark. No, it’s not easy to ever let go.. I am in total agreement with everything you said. Having gone through many events in my life that I had to let go… but, in my heart, those events still sit. Some things are easier said then done, as the saying goes. You’re a good person. You should know that. The media is very good at telling us how we should feel. But, in all honesty, we all know, that what is truly real, is what we feel in our hearts. Not how we are told how we are expected to feel. The best thing we can do for ourselves in life is to feel that we are doing the best that we can with the “cards we are dealt”, so to speak, and to move forward on that concept the best way that we can with what we are capable of both physically, monetarily, and spirtitually. Many of us simply strive to do the best that we can. Isn’t that what God expects of us ? I sure hope so.

    a friend from the past… SMc.

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